doing things with the kids is not something you're going to regret.
But yeah, you need to GAL without them for a couple reasons.
For one, you need feedback from the "outside world" that you are a good fun guy who deserves laughing and loving and interesting talk.
You won't get all that from your kids, and you have needs as a man and would be lover and adult companion.
Second, you also need to be a whole, healed individual and you need that for you AND for your kids. You are their role model for handling blows to the heart and they will all face their own, someday.
Plus, the healthier you are, the better parent you are for them. They need a rock to lean on and you are their rock.
Rocks need shoring up too.
Finally, and this is not a "reason" for GAL but a result, it tends to make a WAW wonder about being replaced.
Like "whoahhhh. I ASSUMED my LBH was going to pine for me some more - and watch the kids --- and now he -- HE might date OW??
And God forbid, a OW might see my kids??"
I'd write your wife a letter in my head....
"Dear WAW, Hope you're having fun now. It'll be harder to have that same fun down the road b/c your kids will be elsewhere with your LBH, whom they're going to be much closer to...forever.
Also, that new OW your LBH met - turns out, she's really kind to the kids! She's attentive, she spends Time with them, she is interested in their dramas, not her own. Oh and more good news. She's stable. She loves AND likes your LBH. He is happier now! They all are. (Guess You were right). So thanks for all you did to help us get here.
Signed, 25 'witness to the carnage you began but which Kyh repaired.'
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
