Mostly sounds good from your end TO. The only bit of thinking to watch is this bit..

"I really need more from him. I need some sort of sign that he's in this. All the signs point to he's not."

When your mind goes to this place, you get all antsy with him and then the cycle starts again...

Take care and hope you enjoy the boat trip xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus