25yearsmlc 10 Yrs Later I File D part 3

[25yearsmlc]

It's a matter of time before OW loses her novelty and starts expecting the same level of maintenance and care, then he'll shed her as well. [/quote]

Of course this^^ could happen. She will not compare well to me in every way even in h's eyes.

To be objective she doesn't compare well to me in anyone's eyes other than she jogs...
but h is not objective. I am the reason for all his ills and I am why he's not farther ahead in life and I'm the reason his kids are not close to him and blah blah blah.

But even in HIS eyes, there will come a day when she doesn't make him laugh (which I freaking did) or get his joke, or know something I know, that bothers him. OR she will disagree or snap at him. Even OW's are human.

And yet For some reason, my gut says SHE will end it, not h. H can come on strong and sweep you off your feet, and he tends to go all in, in every new hobby or venture (or relationship).

I'm told OW has not posted about them on FB nor has she said she's "in a R". That struck me since she is supposedly divorced. ("An abusive ex h"....okay...)

Maybe she's still married, maybe she fears her ex h but Since it's THIS OW naturally i'm skeptical of her having legit reasons. Who knows?

OR maybe she's not as into him or going public. I don't know.
I don't want to read into that, however.

I do think that going so public about it on h's end, means he's cornering himself into having to marry her or what?

To H, being alone will mean failure unless he's dating up a storm and rolling in the money (but since he "retired" that will have to remain hidden for some time, and he may want to hurry this divorce up so he can openly work and remarry)

I hate feeling like I'm in high school with this sense of "competition"...

Sara, I need to remind myself of the 3rd world and 1st world selfishness.

Much as this hurts and infuriates me, there are 3 remaining "future facts"


1) I will survive this and not starve, even if I get "screwed" by h in the divorce. I won't be homeless. And let's hope I'm freed financially of horrific worries so I can LIVE MY LIFE WELL.

2) When I begin to think of h's selfishness - I must remind myself not to get too carried away b/c as your comment has prodded me to see,

we really do have it pretty good in the grand scheme of things. Shelter and food and some form of medical care...puts us ahead of most of the planet.

3) my children are who I must protect. I just don't know exactly what that all means right now.

Protect from truth?

Seeing ME at peace, is probably what's best for them over all

b/c otherwise I won't be able to support them emotionally. I don't know what details they need or don't need. They obviously know d19 was cut off.

Ugh