We're on a camping trip with my kids and tonight after the kids went to bed we were talking about a big project My Guy is working on. I asked him what was next and he mentioned a major repair at his ex's house. The project is big, not ordinary maintenance.
I haven't met her though her house lies between his and mine. From different things he's said at different times it's clear he spends a lot more time with her than he discloses to me in the moment.
How can I envision a future with someone who is still so committed to his previous marriage? However much he wants to cast it as "just a friendship." The things he does for her are not things one does for "just a friend."
Am I overreacting? I feel like the Other Woman. I mean, if the zombie apocalypse broke out, I *think* he'd come for me. But I *know* he'd come for her first. I don't know if I can build a future like that.
Am I being unreasonable? He insists there's nothing about that relationship that could hurt me. But I haven't met her and I know he's aware of my feelings. I know that relationship won't become more distant from concern for me. I'm starting to think hard thoughts.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
