And that's where the issue for me comes in. When my W clearly needs comforting, I'm there for her. But my W wanted me to take the lead more in the intimacy department. But now she just doesn't care. So my 180 is to initiate more intimacy. Which contradicts the advice given on the site. I don't want to attempt to rub her feet after a hard day at the office and get shut down. Which might end up setting my efforts back.
