First time here, part 3

[leahsue]

Tread, just curious why you said "only show up for a face to face if you're going to fight for the marriage"..... I guess, in a way, I AM fighting for the marriage. Neither of us has said we want a divorce. We just live 1000 miles apart right now, and I got tired of his planning visits here, then postponing due to work deadlines, only calling or texting sporadically, etc. He is not overtly trying to divorce me, but he is certainly not pursuing me either, with the exception of planning to visit, which has now been delayed 3 times. So honestly, I don't think we really "fit" into a certain stage in the DB wheel. I think I'll have a better idea once he makes his way here for a visit. In the meantime, I'm NC. That's about the only thing that feels right to me, at this point. Make sense?