The state of not really wondering what or why is a peaceful one to get to. I went through all of those questions WRT XH. What I always come back to now is - stick to me and my stuff. His stuff is his to own. Will he ever? How will he feel? That's up to him.

I'm with you on - wouldn't OW think that is odd? Well, OWs get involved in some pretty bad situations as we know. Through all that happened, XH has become a guy I wouldn't date. Twice married and the second time he was unfaithful. But of course in many situations that is glossed over. I do think any wound to another is ultimately a wound to ourselves though - and also that things do take a while to work through too..

Again I come back to - the only person I have to share a bed with is me. And I want to feel comfortable and at peace with myself...whether he feels at peace with himself is of course up to him and has nothing to do with me any more. I'm glad to say that...

Take care, and hope you find something nice to do today...always good to get out & blow the cobwobs away.... grin

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus