Divorce Final Soon.. I feel Lost

[Sotto]

Yes reconciliations can happen. Though I would say it tends to be much further down the road. It sounds as though you are still looking for some closure and understanding from your H. But hard as it is, I don't think that's very likely. My XH did try and give me some sort of insight - and it was along the lines of he loves me, I am beautiful and have been the best wife - but he knows he needs a new family now. I have to say, it didn't really help me much and I have made my own peace separate to him.

What's the best thing you can do now? In my opinion, it would be to let go completely and rebuild the best possible life you can for yourself. And do so without reference to him and without looking over your shoulder. Accept it was his choice to do this and you may never fully understand, but you can reflect on your own part in the relationship and learn for future relationships.

I don't say any of this because I feel the situation is hopeless. I say it because I think a WAS could well look back and find a LBS who sings, dances, gets out and about, works, looks nice, laughs - rather attractive. Much more so than someone who hasn't seemed able to move on, puts their life on hold and lets it pass them by...

So - how good your life is going to be going forward is all up to you Judela. And nothing to do with him. If anything changes - ie: if he did look back - you can always re-assess and wouldn't have hindered this by moving forward successfully alone...

Good luck and Carpe Diem!! Xx