I am impressed at how you have identified your behavior issues and are working to change for the better. In many cases the spouse sees sudden change and thinks it is a ploy to get her back. I suggest you not tell her you are a new person or have changed, etc. It takes time and much effort to change a lifetime (or adult) behavior. Although her words probably hurt, try to shake it off and don't go into "explaining". This is something she will just have to see for herself, after you've proven it several times.

That reminds of another common mistake I see in H's. They go into explaining things way too much. It's usually when the W makes some type of comment about him and he starts explaining. I don't think it helps his case, and many times he will use statements he draws from the forum........and it doesn't sound authentic to her. That's just a tip, for whatever it's worth.

I'm glad you told me about her working. Do you see each other at the work place?

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I left and she said my legs look nice and when I came back she was sleeping.


confused Is this a same sex M?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!