Keep following the steps you have been. But carefully review what you have done this far and adjust accordingly. And continue to be patient. Trust me your W has noticed the changes, she is wondering if this is permanent or if you are worth staying with. I think an advantage you habe is that you are the one who is working.
So start by cutting off that phone. If she wants a phone, let OM foot the bill. Don't cut her off from the money, but she shouldn't have money to do anything extra for fun. She needs to know that everything about you is better. And what I've found in regards to my own W they forget the things that you actually have done for them. So a reminder is what you need to do through subtle actions, not words.
