Why does it matter that he has head start? He has a head start because he is not trying to learn, heal, and go into his next relationship as a better person. I look at mine and think wow, he's been gone since Oct and is already well into his second "serious" relationship. Then I go, whoa, he's the same POS he has always done and will never have a meaningful relationship until he does the work he needs to do. And I know the likelihood of that.
Who cares what that you know what is doing. He is stuck, stuck, stuck. He is angry and ashamed and too stubborn to right his wrongs. You are going to heal, fly and soar. You are ahead in every way that matters--except it doesn't.
