I feel you on the kids. I thought our initial reconciliation when the kids were young teens was the best thing for them. And since Ex had never moved out of the house, and we had s good reconciliation for a few years until the youngest was a high school senior, I would have thought it was for the best. It was long after our split when I learned the kids had always been waiting for the other shoe to drop. Staying together really hasn't provided them with as much stability as I had hoped, because apparently they were still living in fear the whole time, even when I thought things were good.
