Who says she can't still love & care for him, as his financially solvent ex-wife, better than as his bankrupt wife?
Not to mention how terrible this all is, as an example of poor boundaries, no consequences, tons of enabling & whatever else she is teaching her kids.
Maybe this isn't very complicated; maybe its just really hard.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016