I don't think it would occur to them (or me) that I *need* someone
ROFL. I'm kidding myself. I've been so d*mn lonely for so d*mn long. But I know I'm supposed to be fulfilled without *needing* someone, and most days I am, and just want to share my time and passions with a companion. Feeling impatient.
It is drilled into us on this website that we don't "need" anyone. Yes, we don't need anyone to survive. We can make our own money, derive joy from our own activities, raise our kids on our own......
But a basic human need for almost everyone is a romantic relationship/partnership. It is the human condition. My IC and I discussed this extensively. I feel like I am failing because I feel I "need" a partner. I am not failing because I have that need. I am human. You are human, we are all human.
I personally spent most of my adult life without a partner, raising my daughter, working, fulfilling my obligations, having great times and lots of fun along the way. I managed figure out how to GAl with baby/child in tow most of the time. One of biggest hobbies my D attended with me before she could walk or talk. It saved me. She still attends with me 9 years later:)
We are built to love and have compansionship. To be loved and give love as only romantic partners can.
The key is to curb the impatience which is very very difficult at times. I have made poor decisions because of need and my hole in my heart that can't be filled by some GAL activity. But trust me, the wait for the right one I know will be worth it.
hang in there. Trusting my gut and going with my her may have hurt me a bit, but Sometimes it's okay to throw out the rule book or modify it a little if something feel right. But if something doesn't feel right, we really have to listen to that.
