The divorce advice I think is coming from two directions. One is that he was not hitting rock bottom and she was cleaning up vomit and pee off the floor and paying all the bills while he lay on the couch, and not for the first time over the five years or so that they've been married. So it was, love him, but don't stay married to him. She was completely opposed to that and felt rock bottom could happen without her leaving him (and this may be rock bottom now).

The other is now that she's staring at going into massive debt to pay for nursing care until he dies, maybe years, decades? And maybe could save some of her assets by not being married to him. For that she really needs legal advice.

They have no kids together but she has two young adult kids out of college.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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