WW won't separate

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You have stated your boundary (well at least 1 or 2 so far). My x and i both made our own money so i cant really speak to what else you can do for boundaries and limit cake eating, maybe the others can chime in.

Thanks Natus. I need all the encouragement I can get right now. PEW's situation seems to be close to mine although his wife has been making positive steps it sounds like.

With my kids back from college there are no spare rooms left. Its like I live in a boarding houses. lol. I'm really struggling with my W being back in the MBR. I sway from being grossed out to be attracted back to her. It really messes with my head and my heart. I told her this morning she needs to go sleep at a friends house. She agreed. Then she came back and apologized sincerely for the pain she's caused me. I accepted it but that really just opened my wounds and I didn't handle the rest of the conversation in a DB or validating way. She said so this is what I get for apologizing? All I could say is well there is a lot of pain here as you can see.

Anyway, she continues to bring up pain I caused in the first 25 years of the M i.i.e before BD day. I know this is the mind of the WW talking here but it happens over and over when we get into discussions about the M. I am trying something new. I told her that until she can forgive me, she's never going to heal. I've acknowledged how i've mistreated. I've asked God for forgiveness and I've been forgiven completely. I am moving on into the future of making myself a better person. I told her she's going to live with resentment for me until she can learn to forgive. I don't deserve her contempt. I deserve grace from her.

That sums it up from now but I'm looking to learn to ways to practice DB with a SAHM that can't separate from me and gives me no signs that she wants to move back into the MR. 0 signs.