Hello everyone. I am in need of help. I have been reading the 180 and the LRT stuff. I have divorce remedy and I am reading that too.
I have a husband who is VERY ANGRY. He is hurting, feels unwanted, and is lasting out. We have always had communication issues in our marriage. With this last arguement, I did say I wanted a divorce, which I now regret very much. I haven't been there for him like a should. But I also feel like I have been unhappy with our marriage for a very long time too.
So here is where I need help. My husband has filed for divorce. He won't speak about anything with regards to the relationship. I know now that I need to stop perusing. Problem is that when I checked phone records, he appears to be starting a new relationship with yet another woman. This has happened before and he blames me for his actions. So I sent an email asking if this was the case, because if it were true, then I would allow the divorce to go through without any resistance. I would be done. I can't go through that again.
I received an email back that was filled with anger and hate. It basically stated I'm giving you what you asked for! He blames me for so much. I read the validation stuff and sent another email deeply apologizing and saying I would write even more after I had the time pray and reflect so that my words would be healing and not hurting.
Here is my dilemma, I feel like if I send something apologizing and validating his feelings, I get silence in return. I almost feel like he feels safe knowing that I am still waiting for him. That I am still here if he wants me, I'm not going anywhere. And when I send something that indicates I'm moving on, that's when he responds. I got two angry emails filled with hate today. I just don't know if I should go totally silent/dark and just start to move on. Reading his email, I know I have deeply hurt him. He says there is no one else. I am trying to look past the anger to see the hurt. Does apologizing make someone more angry?
