I think it's less about accomplishment and more about emotional health and unresolved issues for the OP. OW in my case was attractive, intelligent and reasonably successful. But emotionally fragile..

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus