25yearsmlc 10 Yrs Later I File D part 3

[adinva]

I was interested to see that you liked the DivorceCare group. I had thought they would be mainly bitter people stuck in the early stage of DB that DB helped us get past but that some divorced people NEVER get past, the anger, the blame, etc. You know, since they were doing DivorceCare INSTEAD of DB. Big assumption, I know. I also had thought that men there would be looking to pick up women there. I'm glad you're taking such good care of yourself.

This:

I am crestfallen about the past - but yes, I'll refocus and look forward. It just touched me deeply.

I could relate to completely. I thought my own bad choices, which I was prepared to live with the consequences of (if you can't change your situation, change your attitude!), and stick with for life...were my own problem, but then when I realized I had subjected my children to those choices too, and the dad they had was not the dad they deserved, and there were other husbands out there who were such better role models, yes crestfallen is a great word for it.

I guess, don't beat yourself up over it. You did the very best you knew how, for as long as you could, and your kids are the wonderful people they are because they had the life and the parents and experiences that they did. You have a chance to do better for yourself (with or without a man) and your kids will learn from that too.

Hugs!