Very good insight zues. I think it's beyond that though with many of our spouses. I know we never want to ignore our own issues and start handing out diagnoses'. But it gets to the point that when it looks like a duck, and quacks like a duck...it generally is one.
A lot of the walkaways on here are narcissists and abusers.
A lot of us are in denial and blame ourselves in the name of personal growth. Which just feeds abuse, because that's how it thrives...with denial and self blame.
