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<quote>Feeling more determined today. Not sure how long I can actually force myself to keep no contact, but I'll make it past today. Biggest concern is that I am giving her the ability to "get over" me. I don't really want to make things easier on her. It felt like we were making some progress before, then she was "feeling crushed" again. I think my biggest problem is that with NC I can't see results. I don't like the not knowing.</quote>
I had these same concerns when I was doing no contact. I just felt this strong pestering feeling that no contact wasn't right for me. My situation seemed better when I was talking to my wife. Eventually, I started sending her messages/letters about once a day for about a month. And then one day she wanted to see me, and I sensed a real chance with her that day. So during the following days, I pursued her pretty hard. Got her to go on a date with me. And that whole weekend turned out great. My point is that sometimes no contact doesn't seem to be the thing people should do.

Going out with two new friends? Sounds like you are very good at making friends.

I'm glad that you have the opportunity to show your wife positive changes when you move and get a job. I hope you get the job.

<Quote>Things that bugs me is this was the timeline all along. I'm literally just continuing with "our" life plan. I don't know what she wants anymore, but this is what I still want.</quote>
She seems to be looking for something that she feels is missing in her life. She might not even know what it is. Has she ever expressed to you the desire to have a child?