We shouldn't say too much about your situation in giftd's thread, but I'd keep with the compliments, just maybe tone them down, especially right after a negative response to them. Believe none of what they say definitely applies here, in my opinion. Also remember that a walk away spouse will often not act like they appreciate or notice your positive changes, when they really do, or at least are taking notice of them, and these changes will likely give them pause, at least at some point, if not right now. I also want to add that when she says your compliments make her feel uncomfortable, that there is likely a good chance that they make her feel confused and make her question her thoughts about leaving you. If this is the case, then I think your compliments are a very good thing, in moderation. Can you think of another reason why she might feel uncomfortable with your compliments? The only thing I can think of is that maybe they make her feel guilty about what she is doing or thinking of doing, which also would be a good thing.

And how about we put this in your thread, rather than in giftd's?

M: 33, W: 30 @BD
M 7, T 10
BD: Early Dec
W left: Late Dec
W got stuff: Late Jan
W sent S papers: Mid Feb
OM cnfrmd: Late Feb

Pain can yield tremendous growth OR everlasting sadness and bitterness.