thanks that helped clarify. my situation is much the same. my wife felt i didn't express or compliment her appearance often enough. i have been overthinking distancing on this matter as she once said i needed to stop the compliments (after BD) as it made her feel uncomfortable but went on to say that i should do it in my next relationship as it would be greatly appreciated. 2 things apply here i believe (correct me if I'm wrong) - believe none of what she says and only half of what she does, and 180'ing in this case may need to be reviewed, re-evaluated but reinitiated in a not so blatant way
BD Oct 2016 Me 47, W 43 together 25 years S 25, D 22
