Count on ups and downs (III)

[WillDo]

Since I feel calmer, I felt it would be good to add a summary;

Summary:
It has been almost 3 years since my relationship is in limbo. Apart from the series of events, the breakdown started once I
noticed the work friend turning out to be the OM. She had admittedly said he was the man whom she felt enjoyed company most.
The major event was the time I found that she was sexting with him. I only see 3/4 pictures but that was enough.
Instead of remorse, she attacked me of going into her personal things. Thereafter, more and more talks happened about why we
are at this stage. Once I started educating myself and noticed doing 180, I did substantial changes of which she said
she had noticed. Sexless rather no sex marriage took pace. At a point I had IC (important information;
I have a history of depression so went to my consultant. She came once. I went 3 times) and marriage counselling.
I managed not to go into depression. The consultant advised me to turn it into anger. Plus I am on Lithium which stabilises my mood.
I know that has been a reason for her to withdraw even though she really was a carer during my illness.

Again, I have been doing things she has been complaining about. Avoiding chasing, pleading. Looking after specifically the
our 7 year old twin daughters.

I had major arguments recently and she stopped having her salary go to the joint account, went to another bedroom and
she is more adamant that I should leave the house. Rather she wants to move to our second property which we rent out. Right now it needs
repairs but she is insisting on not to bring in new tenants. I don't know what to do differently.