Trying to stay above water

[leahsue]

Hi Henwen,
I don't have anything new to add. You've gotten some good advice on here already. I just wanted to stop by and encourage you to really lay low with him and read Sandi's rules every morning before you see him at work. Don't let your heart dictate your actions right now. It will go against the DB mindset, and I truly believe if anything is going to help us at this point, it is to follow it, of course revised where it needs to be to fit our individual circumstances. I've been where you are, and I know the fear and pain that comes with this season of our lives. Keep posting, vent on here, cry on here, but let him see the cool, confident, secure woman that you are. It may feel like you're playing a game, but it's so much bigger than a game. It's who you want to be, whether the marriage gets saved or not. Save yourself first. That's all we can do right now. I'm pulling for you!