Hi Ms Juju! Thanks for those kind words. I'm using this awful experience to become the best woman I can possibly be. The goal is to be better, not bitter, right? Let our pathetic ex's rot while we blossom. Ok, that was unnecessary of me... But it's kind of true.
For the sake of anonymity, I can't disclose too much about the legal side of my d, but I promise you it would make your head spin. Maybe when my d is final, I will share a bit more in addition to what I've eluded to, but it's NASTY.
Enough about me. To answer your question, "why didn't I recognize it for what it was?" Because you loved him and you believed he would never betray you. Period. But love is blind and you got burned. Absolutely nothing you can do about it now. Nothing except take care of you and s.
I get it, Juju. I really do. I guess unlike you, there were clear cut signs in my sitch. I saw how nasty and vindictive ex was/is, but I was stupid and never believed he could do it to me. I watched him make enemy after enemy and I felt bad that people just didn't understand him...... But now I'm on the other side of the coin and its absolute hell. This guy will stop at nothing.
Juju, you can do this. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. You are stronger than you think and you'll continue to get stronger. You have a long, full, life ahead of you and you have the power to make it a great one. Don't let this nonsense hold you back.
Take care of yourself. Again, I get it. Don't want to be harsh. He's just not worth your rumination.
Me- 30's H- 40's T-10 M-5 I moved out b/c he wanted space- June 15 D filed by H: September 16
