Thanks for the thoughtful reply. I was only *momentarily* offended by the idea of being lumped in as one of those girls who--- ... I got over it. I can't be hypersensitive and hope to get useful feedback at the same time.

I'm landing on wanting to slow things down next time I talk to him. I feel anxious about creating expectations and overwhelmed at the fast start we had, and I think that if I knew we could keep this friendly and casual I would be completely happy about it.

And rather than worrying about how he might feel about that I should be focusing on saying what I need and letting him handle his own feelings whatever they might be.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.