Hello DonH. I dont think we have ever "met". smile. You bring up some good points. I know G so that comes into it for me and maybe that isnt fair.

You are right...who knows why he did it? I do not know if he told G that he broke up with the other woman because he wanted to start a family or that she was too old. I guess I always hope that people try to do the right thing with honor and integrity. I know that I can sometimes be disappointed in that way.

At the end of the day, we all have to own our actions and hopefully learn from them.

Here's the thing about Ginger. She is ferocious at looking within. She attacks it. Sometimes a little too much, I think. Although I am guilty of it myself at times. She is terribly hard on herself. To know her is to understand the depth of how she loves. If you are a part of her life...you are truly a part of it. She is loyal to a fault.

G, it is not just words when I tell you that I believe, deep in my soul, that everything happens as it should. And most of the time, we dont realize it til much later. I know that doesnt help the pain now, though.

Remember that you will not always feel as you do right now. You have known the very depths of heartache and came out the other side. You will again.

Be gentle with yourself. Rest, eat, exercise, cry...be around people and be alone. And I think it is an incredible gift what you have given these men. You are, after all, deep in your soul...a nures. It is part of what makes you...you.