Divorced by 2016

[DonH]

I have to take back part of what I said. Not because you were offended, but because they do not apply. I do apologize if these details were in your thread and I missed them. However I did not know that you already knew this guy. Had I known that I would never have suggested a casual meet and greet. What would have been the point of that! So yeah, no reason for it. Although it does appear that you built up expectations in your mind - ones he may not have been able to hit - but who knows? I dated someone for about six months that I had dated 20 years ago. It was much the same in that we talked on the phone a lot, etc. when we met it could have gone either way. We both wanted to make sure the other understood there were no promises either way. As it turned out we totally hit it off! We only stopped dating when she decided to give her exH another chance - and they are still together now four years later. So, see it does happen for some!

Most of my other suggestions still stand. Try to work on taking things as they happen rather than them having to be fair tales right away or even all the time. Just like in piecing, it often takes time together for feelings to develop. If they do, that's great. If not, you've not done anything wrong. It's okay to ask for and express what you want. As long as you ar always honest, you are not doing anything wrong.