Oh yeah, life goes on...

[Sotto]

Thanks for chiming in guys. Well my mention of the married guy overtures certainly sparked some debate!!

Just dropping in for an update. Last week was the anniversary of our divorce, so I officially made it through a year post D without dating at all and just healing - so I'm pleased with that. And as my friend said this weekend - the chastity belt is now off!!! Well, that may be overstating things, but I'll see what unfolds I guess.

Wow, this work project is a tough one. Unpredictable, complicated and it feels like one forward and two back at times. I think it's just the nature of these kinds of projects. On the plus side, I have been pretty calm and we have a great team, who have all proved really willing and helpful. Plus, we are getting there...grinding along - but forward nonetheless...hmm, that reminds me of how my sitch felt sometimes...

Still enjoying friends, yoga, choir, dancing, bookstore etc...life trips along - mostly pleasantly and I am grateful. In fact, I do feel practicing gratitude is a huge thing I have learned - plus not sweating the small stuff. I truly feel I am a more grounded person than I was a few years ago, which is such a bonus.

So, through one of my activities I regularly see a guy who seems nice and seems quite interested in me. It's possible something may develop, but I'm really not sure of his circumstances. He appears single - but is that single (recently separated?) or single (no longer married..) That matters a lot to me and I guess at some point if things do move in that direction, I'll need to ask. For him to be married (albeit separated) would be a deal breaker to me. That's too much of an unresolved situation for me. Maybe I'm a bit over sensitive but I really don't want to be going out with another woman's husband...even if they are separated?

I'll keep you posted anyhow - and for now I'm enjoying a bit of mild flirtation! Otherwise, things are moving along with buying the second property, so there's a little more decorating and sorting to look forward to in the next month or two...as for XH, not a peep and I must admit I do think of him less. I don't envy him his lot, nor OW hers. He ended up with an immature, needy and serially unfaithful woman, and she with a much older guy in crisis trying to recapture his lost youth. It's not a recipe for genuine and lasting contentment. But, you know what? That's up to them...

Take care all, and know this.....it truly does get better....even if you don't save your M and you D....there is a good life to live on the other side of that..

Xx