I get the working on myself. I'm doing that. Enjoying the fact I can sleep in without feeling guilty I can choose to stay out with friends and not be accountable to anyone. So I get that. And I am learning and realizing with DR that I can't control my S. At all. If he chooses the single life then I accept it. I have come to look at my life in the future as single. It makes me sad. But I understand that I cannot control him. My question is. How will letting go of the marriage help to make the marriage a success? Maybe once I read the whole book thru I will have a better understanding of it all.
I can choose to stay out with friends and not be accountable to anyone. So I get that. And I am learning and realizing with DR that I can't control my S. At all. If he chooses the single life then I accept it. I have come to look at my life in the future as single. It makes me sad. But I understand that I cannot control him. My question is. How will letting go of the marriage help to make the marriage a success? Maybe once I read the whole book thru I will have a better understanding of it all.