Also, I like the theory of putting me in with their memories, that it would help it lose power. Not sure if that was a temporary effect in my situation, because now my husband wants out of the marriage for good.
But... in my case, H still has feelings for the person he had an affair with over 4 years ago. Most of the time he won't admit it, but I can tell. We rarely talk about the A anymore, but anytime her name is brought up, he can't help but smile even though he tries to hide it. Plus, while he was drinking the other night while we were on vacation, he told me he felt something with her he never felt with me. He said it was like lightning stuck him. He was saying this while giving me the ILYBINILWY speech so I do not know how much credibility it has.
