LiM: One Year into Piecing

[LiM]

Because of what I heard on the audio recorder and what I read in their FB messenger messages, I'm already horrifically aware of what acts were done between the two of them. So when we talk, I'm not asking questions about what they specifically did. I'm asking more about the how and why. I want to know what was going on in their heads while all this was going on.

The reason is that I want to shine the light of day on the illicit acts. So long as all of that remains in her head, a sense of mystery and intrigue can remain. If I can get her to share all of that with me, then it loses its power. It loses its magic. Once its been spoken, its no longer a secret between just her and OM. I am now a part of it and I feel that in effect minimizes anything that she may still feel is "special" about what happened.

I don't know if it actually works that what but that's my thought process behind it.

I'm intrigued by Retrouvaille and would be interested in doing it but I don't think that's in the cards for right now. Maybe in the future. Both my W and I went through a very intensive program call Pathways. I would highly recommend that to any person struggling with any sort of serious trauma or hurt in their life.