My head is all over the place. My friend has a sitter for Saturday so its a real date. It has dredged up a lot of unresolved stuff, answering questions and choosing what to divulge, what not to. Catching myself still seeking pity when this is my chance to own my story focus on all the good in my life and hold my head up. I still find there's anger about some things. I will swim some of it off at the gym.
This^^^ is going to be my goal, and maybe one of my mantras. I do not want to be a victim, though I admit I feel like one.
I am the author of how the rest of my life goes, so it's my story.
I think there must be a way to avoid all the "why'd you divorce?" questions, without hiding stuff. (Though in time you'd obviously both need to figure out what the other person learned, and what their triggers and values are).
Maybe you wait til later in the new relationship and then gently ask. I would also look hard at their relationships with their kids. If the kids are old enough to "get it"< and they are not close to their dad (or mom if you are a LBH), that would strike a chord of oddness to me.
but this^^ can wait a bit.
How are WE to answer? Frankly, if the guy asked ME why H and I are now divorcing, my one word answer would be "dishonesty".
Which seems over simplified, and very biased,( and is.)
But like you, Adinva, I'm not sure what the heck h was thinking or planning or for how long. H put me in an impossible position. I think your h did that with you, as well.
But yes, hold your head up!
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016