I totally agree w/roist. Don't try to force anything, allow things to flow naturally. Just leave things be and enjoy the time you are spending w/him. Keep your space a safe haven for him.
As for him returning...he will need to do the necessary hard work in order for that to happen. He's going to have be transparent to you. In other words, he's going to have to be honest about his life and if an ow is in the picture, he's going to have to cut the ties to her. In other words, he has to win your trust back. If he returns, he is going to want to sweep things under the carpet and not talk about what happened...at some point, that conversation will need to take place.
When someone returns too soon, they haven't completed the necessary and hard work and feel like it's very easy to return and not have to address the elephant in the room. Both people have changed, therefore, the old marriage is gone and a new one begins...but it's a very long road before that happens.
Babe, continue as you have been and just leave things to unfold naturally.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
