I don't get it

[roist]

I would not force anything. Take it slow. Proceed with no pressure and no expectations. Have fun. I do suggest not being available every weekend for meeting him. This is not test but is interesting to see if it has any affect on H. There is no fool proof test. Your best bet is your gut instinct.

It is great that you are able to resist checking his phone etc. That is no way to live. If you feel you have to then the R isn't working for you. Spying hasits place IMO when in a R and your gut says it is off. It should only be used to verify a hunch and not to monitor on an on going basis.

IMO it is not possible to reconcile without addressing what has happened.He needs to take responsibility for his actions and demonstrate he wants to make ammends. But that can wait for now, but should not be swept: under the rug.

Do not take him back without making ammends nor without healthy boundaries in place.

I am glad things are improving but thread carefully. The signs are good or at least better but the road is long.

Non courage mon amis etc meilleurs veoux