Re-reading the thread on going dark. I'd like some input.
After initiating NC, W will text me every so often. I have been pretty short, responding to her questions-but not asking personal questions in return. She stopped by early last week after a weekend with her family. I was pretty short. Not angry, just didn't display much emotion, or ask about the weekend. She was upset that I wasn't more interested or emotive. I told her I was trying to give her space. She later texted me this:
"I guess we never established what space meant. I appreciate you and respect that you want to give me space. Part of me still wants to connect and support you but you have to tell me if you don't want that. It's irrelevant - but is there any love even? I feel like you speak to me like I'm dead.
I'm struggling (my name) and I'm so sorry, so sorry for letting you down and being this way. I feel like I have failed you and my family and yours and I can't find purpose in living anymore.
Just in the way you talk to me - you seem so distant, and non-challant."
I didn't know how to respond so I didn't text anything back. Again, trying to be distant, by maybe too distant? Later she sent another text asking how I was doing and apologized for being upset. I told her I hoped she was feeling better.
I'm trying to maintain NC and generally detach, but want to make sure I don't make mistakes by being too aloof. She hasn't said anything more serious than above about MR, so I figure I need to stay on the path.
She dropped the dogs off this morning, let them in and fed them while I was upstairs getting ready for work and then left. We later texted a bit and talked briefly about the pups, but nothing significant.
