25yearsmlc 10 Yrs Later I File D part 3

[25yearsmlc]

Oh, and fwiw, your H didn't "just happen" to meet "the love of his life" within weeks of your split. I'd bet money he had already started something with her before or had a history with her from before.

Oh I know^^^. In fact it'd be weirder & crazier (arguably worse?) if he had just met her and posted that crap. He never posted about us on FB (rarely posted anything other than a few "adventure" pictures of himself on a mountain, hunting, a maybe few graduation photos). The kids noticed that he had very few pics of us as a family. Now I guess he's all about it.

It all bothers me of course. But I know that it's mostly my ego/heart. I mean, in my head I know that it can't be true and that our 35 year marriage was not a sham and our family was not the "practice family", but I am stunned by how cruel it is of him. He's burning a lot of bridges - my family is huge and he loved them. He has one brother who lives near me and we remain close. I don't know about my FIL anymore...and that feels like a loss b/c I have to assume h badmouthed me big time with his own weird narrative.

MIL (the wife FIL has had for 25 years) is sympathetic so I don't really know about my FIL but he's been in my life longer than my own dad was.

I feel sad and angry about losing him/them, if I have. H took OW to meet them in Mexico. Evidently posted pics of them kissing there...nice.

Zero of those pictures were ever shown of us. Jesus, I should have wondered more...



Also, that "love of his life" phrase - don't put too much stock in that.

it's not that I believe it, cognitively. But how can he post about it so publicly? We are still married, and it's like I never existed.

Sociopath Ex Boyfriend posted a bunch of pictures of us on Facebook and called me "the love of his life" - except, of course, when those pictures were taken he had the side-chick plus was grifting other women plus was lying about a whole bunch of other stuff. So appearances on Facebook can be VERY deceiving!!

I think as long as the divorce proceeding (MONEY !!!) is at play, which h attaches so much importance to,

I'll never know anything real.

lately I have imagined something happening which may sound like a "hope" but I don't think it is...I think it's just a realistic guess that keeps h's doubts at bay. He once told me if things didn't work out he'd "just win me back" years later...

I believe that h will call me in the next few years. I don't know what the trigger will be but he will need or want something, maybe just reassurances or reminiscing. (Not sure how my own remarriage would affect that but assuming I'm still single...)

But whenever that day comes and he calls or reaches out or sees me at a family event -- he will not apologize or acknowledge wrong doing. He will play nice, as if he's being a gentleman who is taking the high road.

He has ended our m in such an ugly dishonest way. And SO PUBLICLY...


And that really strikes me as worse than cowardly. It strikes me as a "nutty bad"
(the word "evil" is too heavy and my kids are his). My sister said it was the meanest thing she's ever seen on FB, short of naming me as a loser.

But him looking so bad, so "nutty bad" makes me feel worse. Like he's so so flawed and I was so so blind. And I my family hates him now, fwiw.

I think my h is winning the $hittiest exH award.