Cart before the horse. She did send the NC letter, not sure if she is holding to it though. But about her out of the house, I guess it's just frustration creeping in...it almost makes me sick to look at her right now with everything she has done to me at this point.
She has agreed to transparency and she did show me her phone last week and showed me all of her messaging apps and everything. I told her that I didn't want to see anything from her girlfriends as I don't think that's necessary. I saw nothing from the OM but again she wouldn't keep those messages anyhow.
Here's the thing, she claims she has stopped her affair and communication with the OM, but on the flip side she still won't commit to the marriage. So here I am, no commitment from her to me or the marriage but supposedly no communication with the OM. On top of that she doesn't want to discuss our R or anything else and acts content to just act like all is normal (typical roommate lifestyle).
I have gone mostly cold though...they pain is tough to bear but I have started getting out more and doing what I can to GAL. Around her, I try to be positive, calm, and confident, but not sure it's having any effect.
I've stopped my doormat activities. Mostly stopped doing the laundry, the dishes, cleaning the house, etc. In return she's been doing small favors for me. Packing my lunch, making coffee, etc. I accept those but don't put much thought into them.
