Is it Midlife Crisis, Walkaway Spouse or the End?

[Sjs777]

while away on the weekend i have been enjoying me time, reading, playing guitar and going out on occasion and recently joined a band - something i haven't done in years

regarding short conversations, we most often have dinner together, and both smoke so we go for smokes together, every hour or so, she often talks about something going on at work or with friends that i know, or we find something to laugh about. on occasion we talk via email or text while at work, usually short and i try to make sure its initiated by her. I'm always letting her finish her words, i'm always positive and easy to be around. I don't probe, beg, plead, convince etc

i have a long journal of her past complaints and positives and have worked through nearly all. the one which resounds is more recent comments when we danced for hours at christmas (i never dance), and after two hours, she said why now, why now, now that its too late. another one which sticks is to grow balls - which I've come to understand as take action - a past example she used was when she's mad and distancing to take the initiate and take her in my arms - obviously not something i cold do today, but a valid comment none the less

i absolutely am kind and extremely patient and have applied most 180 methods, the toughest one being GAL as I'm still trying to settle my dads estate and there is quite a bit of reno's needed to sell the house. we haven't argued in months

i'm always reading and evolving myself, which points to the question of whether I'm let her eat cake and just easing her exit as a walk away wife often has built up resentment over a period of time, she appears committed to her new friends and i don't believe she's all too connected with old friends