You know, my exH never had any mixed feelings. Never temp checked, never tried anything with me, he was done. He used the D word the second he dropped the bomb and was gone that night. Your ex had drugs numbing things. Mine had an OW.
Your ex is so detached from HIMSELF which is why he can say "let's agree to disagree" He is in denial. He doesn't see any of this.
I think we can almost say somehow we were all "abused" and have trauma. My "trauma" has manifested itself in future relationships sadly enough and how I handle break ups. I fall apart because I feel like my ex is leaving me all over again. And this manifests depression. I don't really need to label it. I just need to learn how to deal and cope with it. My IC is helping me.
I think the key is to work on your depression. To focus as much as you can on your side of the street. I know how difficult that can be. I'm completely off my ex's side of the street. My anger builds up when I feel trapped and hopeless in my life due to decisions that he unilaterally made. But what choice is there? I got to just focus on me and how to deal with these feelings.
