Just keep making your positive changes. And even if she doesn't comment on them and praise you for them, know that she takes notice. It's also important that she has the opportunity to see your changes, but never point your changes out to her, because then she may feel like you are only doing them to get her back -- afraid that you will revert once you win her back.
You definitely need to give her space, but make sure you also give her the things she complained you didn't give her before, if you have the opportunity to. You have to figure out how much space is enough. I'm not sure about telling her how long you are going to go without contacting her. I haven't heard of people doing that before. My wife also complained that I didn't pay attention and listen.
About your friend's ankle, part of your GAL can be helping him. One of the big benefits in GAL is that it helps you derive purpose and happiness in other things than your wife, and gets her off your mind some. Your friend now needs people to help him. A broken ankle also doesn't stop you from hanging out with him to talk, watch a movie together, etc. If you were playing tennis or something with him, find someone else. It can be good for you to branch out and make new friends as well, especially if you are short on friends.
M: 33, W: 30 @BD M 7, T 10 BD: Early Dec W left: Late Dec W got stuff: Late Jan W sent S papers: Mid Feb OM cnfrmd: Late Feb
Pain can yield tremendous growth OR everlasting sadness and bitterness.
