As for my S. My W makes appointments, then tells me after she's been. Yep, probably going to have to go legal on that one as well. My theory is about him missing me and not wanting to leave, or see us apart, and he's playing up accordingly.
It took me a very long time to get my ExW to understand and adhere to my boundaries. A very long time. All you can do is state them, then quietly insist they are respected.
Stop the text marathons. Don't argue or fight. These are the things that lets her know you are still attached. Treat her like you would treat a work college. Polite and respectful but nothing more.
When it comes to your S and his appointments simply ask that next time you would like to know in advance so that if necessary you can make plans to attend. If you can't attend then you can follow up with a call. But only if you know in advance. Trust me after a few times of stating your boundary she will begin to understand.
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Will look again in to mediation, and if that doesn't work, then I'll have to go legal.
You can go to mediation on your own. She doesn't need to be there in the beginning and if you do it'll at least end this horrid status quo you are in.
Peace.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
