Wsh - I'd love the DB coaching but until the house is sold or I get the job I can't afford it. She complained that I wouldn't answer the phone right away when she was driving home or that I wouldn't pay attention on the phone during her driving 2 hours home (I can't pay attention that long, not active listening at the least). I felt like I was getting somewhere with her before but then she shut down and continuing as it was resulted in her saying that she felt "crushed" again. Since she was shutting out everyone in her life (her family) my counselor and the people close to me suggested to give her a couple weeks.
During the time I'm hoping to get a new job and mid-late June a new apartment which will bring new decisions. The biggest thing I've taken away was that with my depression I stopped leading at all (in part because that's what she wanted) so I've been working on that. Any ideas or viewpoints I might be missing are obviously appreciated. I'll talk to my counselor again on Tuesday as I'm back to every week with that to keep my sanity.
Thornton - That's encouraging to hear because my mind obviously goes to the worst places. With how stubborn she is under normal circumstances I have trouble finding the way for her to move forward with me. Some days are better than others but losing my friend to this exploding ankle is a blow to my GAL activities.
Together 7 years Married 3 Said she was taking long way home late January Left to get some space 2/19/17 BD 3/1/17 ILYB