I suggest you talk to a DB Coach. Be careful about no contact, if your wife commonly complained about not getting enough of your attention, or not feeling loved and appreciated. I don't remember whether she complained about that, but just throwing that out there. The most important thing is to do whatever seems to work with her, and avoid the things that seem to make things worse. Look for baby steps in the right direction. One small step leads to another, and another, typically. And remember that it's a marathon, rather than a sprint.
M: 33, W: 30 @BD M 7, T 10 BD: Early Dec W left: Late Dec W got stuff: Late Jan W sent S papers: Mid Feb OM cnfrmd: Late Feb
Pain can yield tremendous growth OR everlasting sadness and bitterness.