Hi. I'm new here. Just started reading DR. My story, I'm 42 he's 45. He had an EA that j came across in an email. Floored me and devastated me. We started MC and tried working things thru. He moved out in October 2016. We have three kids S15, D13, S11. They live with me in the marital home. Long story short. We own a business together. So we have worked together for 17 years. We've been together for 21 years. Common in law. Stress was huge between us. He has an anxiety issue he refuses to deal with. So his moods are all over the place. Right now he sees me as the bad guy. He said he's done with the relationship and won't come back home. Then in the next breath he says I have not shown any change and why would he come back to the same old stuff. He's tired of the arguiing. I find I have been arguing because I can't let go. I don't want it to end. So I found myself pushing him for an answer to R. But obviously when I push that doesn't help and just pushes him away. We still work together and neither has filed for D. There is talk but nothing has been filed. He said he can't waste time trying to fix our relationship because he has to start his life over. And can't waste time on us. That breaks my heart. I love him and want to work on things. But I feel I may have done more damage by pursuing and arguiing and trying to get him to see my point. I can't have NC because of work and the kids. After spending the weekend reading DR I know that I can't reason with him. I need to stay positive. And I need to keep my temper in check. It's hard when I still feel resentful. I need advice please
