So here's the thing....

[Sotto]

Hi NDY, I'm sorry to hear about your brother's diagnosis. A good friend of mine has just finished treatment for breast cancer and I'm pleased to say is doing really well. Not the easiest thing to go through - but I hope your brother is in a similar place in around six months time.

I can understand why you would feel the need to go NC with your XW. Yours was one of the worst kinds of situations with her pregnancy in the mix too - and OM still on the scene. I'm also NC with XH, who lives a distance away and we don't have kids together. Also OW still on the scene as far as I'm aware.

Distance is good in many ways - but what I don't think you get is used to 'rubbing along' with your ex as an ex. And then any contact you do have feels like a bigger deal and gets your mind racing..

Perhaps that conversation was the start of things settling a little more. And I do think it is good if you can have a little contact without too much spinning as you do have a child together and if you can link on stuff that's good..

Who knows if she is wondering whether she made a mistake. TBH, I wouldn't even go down that line of thinking. She has yukky OM as a boyfriend - so end of story....

Now perhaps if she jettisoned him and did some significant work and and and...well then I can imagine you might start to feel more open to potentially building something again. But there she is not....

Anyway, JMHO and hope there is something useful in there for you. Keep making nice plans for yourself and enjoying a good relationship with your son..