Sorry to hear all that, but I'm hearing similar. It's all guilt transfer. It's all going to be about what you've done to cause this regardless of the truth.
My W keeps telling me and her family that I'm making her be the bad guy by wanting a D. I know we could get through this, but she's done and feels I'm forcing her hand.
Space may be good for y'all instead of sharing a place. She's obviously built up some "venom" over the years and needs to get rid of it. Space is easier for that.
Hope you have a great rest of the weekend.
All the best.
Me 42, Wife 39; Married 16; Together 17; Kids: D13, S10 Wife asks for Divorce: 03/19/13 Reconcile: 07/07/13 Round 2 Starts: 02/19/17 Apartment Life: 04/21/17 PA Confirmed: 05/23/17