your ex's comment about the kids not following her and "it is what it is", etc, struck me
True Story - 10 years ago there was a "room mom" (classroom volunteer in charge) at d19's school and she was really INTO it. I mean, super hyper about the classroom parties and activities and she was mega controlling. But kindhearted.
I would sometimes laugh to myself b/c, you know, the kids were in 3rd grade!
We parents really can figure out how much turkey to serve at Thanksgiving, etc. But Room mom would get very worried and concerned about the smallest of things...
Later on that year, she had some type of breakdown and was hospitalized. She came out of the hospital much calmer and at peace...but that changed too.
In the past decade she has had several OM's, smoked a ton of pot,
and has been treated for nervous exhaustion (another breakdown, I think), she heavily explored drug use, and she was arrested a few times. Also got beaten at least once, by some OM.
There was never a divorce b/c her h is older, and had a feeling she'd need help someday...not enabling so much as catching her when she'd fall...
She's now living with her ex h, and their d20 but they are not sharing a bed. As far as I can tell, She's like a dependent child living with a father figure and a sister (except it's her daughter).
My point is, people can change and remain changed. I worry about the assumption that the term "MLC" means the MLCer person will return to who they were before.
My h won't, and this "Room mom" won't. How could they?
Irish, I'm so glad you are not waiting for that and you are GAL.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
