Wife Says "Its Over" and is hard and angry with me

[25yearsmlc]

I'm working on just letting go. It's hard though, wondering what she's doing, where she's at, knowing she wants to be out dating and just wishing she would come back and we could watch our shows and fall asleep in bed together again.


we understand. You are reeling and you are playing that internal "movie" in your head but you can yell "CUT!" and stop those movies. It'll eat you alive and you won't be as present for your son OR yourself as you need to be. Don't let that consume you.


Yeah, she's secretive, she says it is only because she knows I would be upset if she told me how much she was talking to her uncle that much.


Ohhh, so in "reality" - keeping secrets and lying is NOBLE of her! (Clap clap clap...applause)


The fact is I told her when she was first reconnecting with him (when they had a normal level of communication, text every few days, occasional skype call, non of it hidden) that I was glad. It was when it started to get insane that she started to hide it. She knows it is wrong.

Maybe, maybe not. She may not care about what others think or she may have totally justified this b/c she's unhappy with herself AND OR the marriage AND OR you.

I'm betting She's not thrilled everyone else in the family knows (and this is the type of gossip that WILL spread..)

but if your goal is ultimately a reconciliation - just know that the more people who know, the harder it will be for you to get and stay together.

Just fyi